Lab: Play Fight Club – Men’s group
The Play Fight Club is an exploration of masculinity in all it’s spectrum, the wonders and challenges of being alive in a male body. We train strength and sensitivity through exercises and playful fighting, and we talk together about our experiences in life. Our vision is to create a safe space for men to connect, play, share their feelings and get support.
STRENGTH THROUGH SENSITIVITY
For us, sensitivity is a foundational masculine virtue and a misunderstood one. Sensitivity is often mistaken for weakness, brittleness or hesitancy, but as we see it, it is more related to perceptivity and embodied discernment. Hardened steel that cannot deform shatters with a strike. Springy steel that yields prevails. Embodied sensitivity is also experienced as being present in your body, something very appreciated by women.
“I find it very attractive when men are present in their hands. It makes me feel seen and valued”
The fighting we do will be in the spirit of exploring balance and tactility, learning to really feel what is going on in the body and in present moment. We will aim to be uncertain of whether we are fighting or dancing together, and we will be mindful about our mental habits and need to win. Not that wanting to win is wrong, but we aim to be in control of our minds: another core masculine virtue. We want to work towards responsibility rather than reactivity.
When fighting we want to stay with a sense that we are enjoying ourselves and want to hit the edge where we are not sure if we are fighting or dancing. We want the play fighting to be a way of practicing embodied sensitivity, strengthening our bodies, testing our strength, challenging each other and enjoying interacting with another strong body.
At Play Fight Club you will both get to play fight with several partners and spectate others play fighting.
After the play fighting there will be time to talk and we will introduce you to various relating exercises that enable us to share about our lives and experiences in an open, honest and vulnerable way. We will also train relational skills that you can bring home and make your loved ones feel more seen and listened to.
Philia (/ˈfɪliə/; Ancient Greek: φιλία), often translated “brotherly love”, is one of the four ancient Greek words for love: philia, storge, agape and eros. We see the play fighting we do as a thing of beauty and an expression of love.
We see the Play Fight Club as a praxis – something that we can return to and do again and again both to practice physical abilities and to hone our sensitivities.
ABOUT THE FACILITATORS
Peter and Einar are both trained ManuVision body therapists as well as circling facilitators and have some experience with various forms of martial art. We ourselves very much enjoy the sensation of being able to “fight” in a non-hostile environment and want that to be the centerpoint of our meetings. We will introduce you to some central concepts around “fighting for pleasure and enjoyment” inspired by wrestling, jiu-jitsu, contact improv and tai chi and we will facilitate a space where you feel safe to be physical with other men.
Labs are free for members and friends of Relational Spaces.
We follow government regulations and recommendations around COVID-19 and do our best not to further the spread of the virus. We ask you to do the same:
– Please do not show up to events if you have symptoms of covid-19.
– We recommend that you get PCR tested within 72 hours before participating in our events.
– Alternatively there is a test center in Fælledparken, close to Relational Spaces, where it is possible to be quick tested.
Cover photo by Viola Ellehammer Dasseville