Reflections


On width: Who is speaking?

“you are under no obligation to be the same person you were 5 minutes ago.”Borderland bracelet 2015 In my inner world there is a neat and organized village. It is clean, relatively quiet and aesthetically pleasing. The people there are handsome, friendly and go about their everyday lives with purpose and positive energy, although there might be a sense of something missing or not being quite right. Behind the village is a broad stream with a single bridge crossing it. The bridge is guarded by an old man with an equally old wolf......

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On depth: Where are you speaking from?

In this post I am borrowing and blending two frameworks. One is taught at the Authentic Relating Training and the other by Circling Europe. I find that these two frameworks together give a pretty neat perspective on the different levels of depth we can speak from. Informational/conceptual: Facts and stories in time.Personal: Experiences and feelings in time.Relational/authentic: Relationships in time and relationships in presence.Awareness: Emergence, presence and interbeing.Soul: Mystery in presence. In this post I write about these as levels of interpersonal communication. I think we all have experiences of all of these......

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Practicing the Other Life

There are multiple ways of looking at Cultural Protocols — what they for, about, what they mean to each of its practitioner. Some perceive Drifts as a game, others as an act of co-creation. Some perceive Speaking Into Silence as a meditation-ritual, others as a discussion-technique. And I guess all of it can be found in them. To me they have become spaces and environments in which I can practice the other life — a life that is built on principles that I have chosen consciously. In 2018 a friend and myself were......

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On Lightness

Lightness is a strong theme for me these days. Based in my taiji practice, where it has become very obvious for me that the lighter I become (and feel), the more heavy and connected I feel for my practice partners. But the sense of lightness is also becoming very important for me in the way I relate to the world generally....

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